Showing posts with label Greek values. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Greek values. Show all posts

Friday, March 21, 2014

Student initiated to fraternity from hospital room

All college fraternities claim to have "Brotherhood." Here is how one Phi Kappa Tau chapter showed theirs.

The Guardian : Student initiated to fraternity from hospital room:

Bethany Foureman , Contributing Writer
March 19, 2014
Filed under Top StoriesWright Life - See more at: http://www.theguardianonline.com/wright-life/2014/03/19/student-initiated-to-fraternity-from-hospital-room/#sthash.tauvxJZX.dpuf

Wright State student Abdelrahman Mohamed spent his spring break recovering after suffering a brain aneurysm that left him hospitalized for two weeks. Unsure of what the post-surgery results would be, his fraternity Phi Kappa Tau decided to initiate him in his hospital room.

On February 11, Mohamed was rushed to the hospital via ambulance after experiencing a severe headache in the dorms.

“I had an unusual pain in my head,” Mohammed said.  “It was so painful that I was on the ground holding my head from pain.  I figured that was not just a headache and something was wrong.”

Upon arrival at Kettering Medical Center, he learned that he had suffered from a brain aneurysm.  The doctors performed surgery, but the procedure failed, leaving him in the intensive care unit.  Following the procedure he was given a 50/50 percent chance of surviving a second operation.

Mohamed is from Egypt and said he found a home away from home when he joined Phi Kappa Tau fraternity at Wright State.  His brothers filled the waiting room during his entire hospital stay.

One of the nurses asked Mohamed how long he had known the boys in the waiting area.  His response was that he had only known them for one semester at school.  The nurse could not believe how close he had become with these guys after just one semester and that he considered them his family.

“It was more than amazing having my fraternity brothers and all the Greeks support, I even introduced my fraternity to the doctors as my family when they asked.  I didn't even call my real family back home because I knew these guys got my back.”

When Mohamed entered the hospital he had not yet been initiated into Phi Kappa Tau and was still considered an associate member.  The fraternity got permission from their National President Steve Nelson to initiate him while he was in the hospital.

The initiation took place prior to Mohamed’s second surgery.

“Regardless of the outcome of the surgery, we wanted AB to be a full brother of Phi Kappa Tau,” Phi Kappa Tau President, Andrew Dover said.

When Mohamed found out he was going to be initiated in the hospital, he was thrilled.

“It was so sweet, I could barely remember what they told me but I remember getting so excited that my blood pressure kept getting high and that they had to stop many times so the nurse could come in and fix it up,” Mohamed said.

Mohamed’s second surgery was a success and his family was able to arrive in the U.S. a couple hours after.  He not only received support from his fraternity, but the whole Greek community as well.  Wright State’s Greek community raised $775 dollars to give to the family of Mohamed to relieve some of their travel expenses.

Mohamed also received numerous cards and hospital visits from members of other fraternities and sororities at Wright State.  On March 9, he went around to chapter meetings to thank everyone for their support.

“I want to thank all of you for supporting me, I greatly appreciate it,” Mohamed said at a Kappa Delta meeting. “I also want you to know that if you guys ever need anything, I’ll be there for you.”

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Tuesday, April 23, 2013

TX Alpha SigEp organizes blood drive for victims of West explosion

Our guys at Texas got busy to help out the victims in the West, TX explosion. Great job!

Sigma Phi Epsilon organizes community blood drive to assist victims of West explosion | The Daily Texan:

Finance sophmores Ashley Davison and Matt Johnson give blood
during the Sigma Phi Epsilon blood drive for West families Monday
afternoon. More than 30 people signed up to help bring relief to the
victims of the fertilizer plant explosion on April 17.

Photo Credit: Charlie Pearce | Daily Texan Staff
BY MATTHEW HART

The explosion in West last Wednesday led officers of Sigma Phi Epsilon to organize a community blood drive Monday to help residents of the small town.

Business accounting senior Payton Schramm,Vice President of Philanthropy for Sigma Phi Epsilon, organized Monday’s blood drive in the fraternity’s parking lot at the corner of 25th and Pearl streets. Approximately 30 donors attended the drive.

“There’s always one or two events we do every semester to give back to the community,” Schramm said. “There are also spontaneous events like this blood drive that I organized. We’re always trying to do our part to give back, so when the explosion hit West Texas last week, we decided a blood drive would fit perfectly.”

Schramm said he organized the event with The Blood Center of Central Texas and set it up in the fraternity parking lot from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m..

“I know a lot of blood drives aren’t available in this zip code but I found [the Blood Center of Central Texas],” Schramm said. “I got in contact with them and it was a really easy process. You don’t pay them anything, they just show up. You just give them an idea of how many people are coming and then they just work with you.”

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Thursday, January 10, 2013

Northwestern : IFC kicks off annual winter recruitment - sans SigEp

Starting over at Northwestern.

The Daily Northwestern : IFC kicks off annual winter recruitment


For the Interfraternity Council, this year's recruitment will look a little different.
...
On the men’s side, the North Campus quad will offer a reshuffled set of options from a year ago. Gone are Chi Psi and Sigma Phi Epsilon, and Delta Tau Delta will participate in formal winter recruitment for the first time since their return to campus last year.
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Despite disaffiliating all of its members following a membership review this fall, Sig Ep will not be leaving campus or the IFC. Instead, national representatives will be coming to NU this week, and the chapter will participate in some of the activities of formal recruitment, Sig Ep’s director of fraternity operations Andrew Lemens told The Daily on Tuesday. The headquarters began informational meetings on campus Wednesday and they will continue Thursday, according to the IFC website.

Tuesday, January 08, 2013

Sig Ep disaffiliates members following alumni review

The chapter members who were disaffiliated are “not eligible or invited" to join the new Sig Ep chapter on campus.
The Daily Northwestern : BREAKING: Sig Ep disaffiliates members following alumni review

BREAKING: Sig Ep disaffiliates members following alumni review
PAULINA FIROZI, MANAGING EDITOR
January 8, 2013

All members of Northwestern’s chapter of Sigma Phi Epsilon are officially disaffiliated from the organization after the national fraternity suspended members this summer.

Andrew Lemens, Sig Ep’s director of fraternity operations, said the national fraternity intervened when questionable behavior exhibited by the brothers “got to a point where it was detrimental to their success.” He said a group of alumni was assigned to evaluate members of the fraternity through Fall Quarter and determined they would not be able to continue as members of Sig Ep.

“It became quickly apparent through interviews and some follow up processes that there weren’t any members in that current group who are capable of detaching themselves of the former chapter experience, who were willing and able to do the things necessary to sustain Sigma Phi Epsilon at Northwestern,” Lemens said.

Although no previous members will remain in the chapter, Sip Ep will remain affiliated with the University. Lemens said the national fraternity is working with the Office of Fraternity and Sorority Life and the Division of Student Affairs to reestablish the organization with new members for Spring Quarter.

He said Sig Ep representatives will be on campus starting this week to begin recruiting unaffiliated men who are “interested in joining and building a premiere fraternity experience.” The organization will participate in some of the formal recruitment activities that begin for the Interfraternity Council this week.

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Speaker encourages panhellenic members to buy in or get out - Daily Campus - Southern Methodist University

David Stollman tells it right.

Speaker encourages panhellenic members to buy in or get out - Daily Campus - Southern Methodist University

The simple statement “Buy In or Get Out” flashed on the screen in the Hughes-Trigg Ballroom Sunday evening as Panhellenic women from each sorority chapter on campus filled the room for the “Stand Up, Stand Out” lecture by David Stollman.

“I’m not here to blow sunshine at you,” Stollman said. “I’m pretty blunt and pretty honest.”

Stollman, who is the co-founder of Campuspeak and hazingprevention.org, has traveled to campuses countrywide for 15 years, encouraging Greek communities to “inject some backbone into their membership standards.”

As an active volunteer for his fraternity Sigma Phi Epsilon and the current chapter advisor for Alpha Sigma Tau sorority at New York University, Stollman has his finger on the pulse of Greek life, its stereotypes, and what needs to be done to fix them.

“I do what I do because I believe in sororities and fraternities. This is what I do by choice, because what we do makes a difference,” he said.

Stollman immediately engaged the audience with his humor, cracking jokes about the common stereotypes that describe fraternities and sororities. He then had the audience call out adjectives that are frequently used to describe members of Greek life. A few included jerks, alcoholics, hazers, partiers, snobs and airheads.

“Would our founders be proud?” he asked.

To enforce his point, Stollman showed a slideshow of pictures of college Greeks around the country, doing exactly what those adjectives described. He proved that there is much that needs to be fixed when it comes to the current image of Greek life.

“I don’t want these stereotypes hung around my neck,” he said.  “Be the ones that don’t tolerate it.”

Sunday, March 11, 2012

New website launched to hire sorority and fraternity members

Another channel into the process of getting a "real job" after graduation.

HireGreeks.com launches new website to hire sorority and fraternity members - Springfield Job Interview Skills | Examiner.com:

"If you belonged to a fraternity or sorority in college, you now have another opportunity to network your way into a job. HireGreeks.com is a new website that creates an easy way for Greek alumni and Greek undergraduates to communicate and network about job opportunities, based on the values they cherished in the Greek system in college."

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Friday, April 23, 2010

Frat inspired by Robert E. Lee bans Rebel uniforms

So much for "Old South Days"
The Virginia-based Kappa Alpha Order issued new rules to chapters earlier this year saying members aren't allowed to wear Rebel uniforms to parties or during their parades, which are a staple on campuses across the South.
There have been numerous instances in recent years of KA members being confronted and insitutions petitioned to end the practices
In the memo to chapters, Kappa Alpha's national executive director, Larry Wiese, said such displays had to end.

"In today's climate, the Order can ill afford to offend our host institutions and fend off significant negative national press and remain effective at our core mission, which is to aid young men in becoming better community leaders and citizens," Wiese wrote.
The big question: Is this being aware and sensitive to cultural diversity and historical issues, or is it political correctness taken to an absurd degree?

We ain't touchin' it, but can't wait to read the comments.

Frat inspired by Robert E. Lee bans Rebel uniforms - Yahoo! News

Friday, October 09, 2009

Northwestern Celebrates 150 Years of Greeks

Fraternities and Sororities Celebrate 150 Years at Northwestern University

Fraternity and Sorority Life at Northwestern University celebrates 150 years on campus in 2009. To celebrate this momentous occasion, the Office of Fraternity and Sorority Life, in conjunction with the Interfraternity Council, Multicultural Greek Council, National Pan-Hellenic Council, and the Panhellenic Association are hosting a celebratory event during the Northwestern University’s Homecoming Week. Students, staff, and alumni are invited to join the community on October 24, 2009 at 3:00pm in the Panhellenic Sorority Quad for the event, which includes a short presentation and light refreshments.

Throughout its 150 years on campus, fraternities and sororities have been a vital part of the campus community. In the 2008-2009 academic year, nearly 40% of undergraduate students affiliated with 39 chapters on campus. In addition, students completed 28,132 hours of community service, donated more than $350,000 to philanthropic causes, and had a higher cumulative GPA than students who are not affiliated with a Greek organization.

“Greek Life is the premiere collegiate experience. Students who join our organizations are deeply committed to the values of scholarship, service, leadership, and community. While there are many opportunities to be involved on campus, a fraternity or sorority provides students with a holistic leadership experience that continues into lifetime membership,” said Dominic Greene, Director of Fraternity and Sorority Life. “I look forward to continued success and to celebrate many more milestones.”

Monday, August 03, 2009

The World Is Changing for Utah Greeks

Changes to U of U's Greek System

The stigma surrounding fraternities and sororities could soon change here in the state. When most people think of the Greek life, they may think of parities, alcohol and scenes from “Animal House”. The University of Utah is changing the Greek system to change its reputation and to attract new members from all walks of life.

The University’s Greek Council is trying to make Greek row a little more diverse. “This fall, we’re heavily pushing our Latino and Latina fraternities and sororities that are actively getting going” said Jay Wilgus the council advisor for the U. They also want more faith based chapters involved in Greek life. In fact, Wilgus says they want to hear from anyone interested in starting a chapter.

The council is using social networks such as Facebook and Youtube to encourage more students to rush this fall. There’s even free cash for those interested in the Greek life. The University will hand out 16 scholarships, each worth about $500, to those interested in joining a fraternity or sorority.

A dark cloud however hangs over the Greek system here in the state. Last year, a college student died during an initiation activity at Utah State University. Though hazing is illegal, it still happens at fraternities and sororities across the country. The University of Utah is working with the family of Michael Starks, the student that died. They’re also working with lawmakers to craft criminal hazing laws. “Hazing is certainly not tolerated,” says Wilgus. “We’re doing active work in that regard to make sure students have a positive experience and a healthy experience.”

http://www.kutv.com/content/news/local/story/Changes-to-U-of-Us-Greek-System/EzUtlldO906mAXjqzRR1Tw.cspx

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Stevens SigEp is 2009 Valedictorian

Congratulations Michael:
HOBOKEN, N.J. (May 14, 2009) – Senior Michael Bertucci, a Chemical Biology major with a minor in Social Sciences, has been named Valedictorian of the Stevens Institute of Technology Class of 2009. Graduating first in the class, Michael will address his fellow graduates at the 2009 Undergraduate Commencement Ceremony on May 21, 2009. Actively involved in many aspects of life at Stevens, Bertucci has made numerous contributions to the Stevens community. He is a stellar volleyball player and academic standout.

A student coach of the women’s volleyball team for the past three years, Bertucci is also involved in the Sigma Phi Epsilon fraternity, the American Cultural Club, the Alpha Phi Omega service fraternity, the Student Athletics Advisory Committee (SAAC), and serves as president of Gear and Triangle. Always a champion for getting involved, Michael also served as an Orientation Leader, welcoming new students to Stevens and encouraging them to be active participants in the campus community. As a featured speaker at the Class of 2013 Accepted Students Reception, he was chosen to share his Stevens experiences in an address to prospective students and their families.
The full article is here:
Men's Volleyball Release - Stevens Ducks

Wednesday, April 01, 2009

One Size Does Not Fit All

Why Not Go Greek?
by David Moltz

NATIONAL HARBOR, MD. – Though national figures suggest the number of undergraduates associated with Greek organizations has increased slightly in recent years, some individual campuses have seen their chapters struggle with recruitment and retention. In an effort to explore this phenomenon, a new study attempts to profile those students who decide not to join Greek organizations and chronicles their reasons for opting out.

Kristin S. Fouts, assistant director of the student activities and leadership program at Western Michigan University, presented her study before a group of student affairs administrators at a Tuesday meeting of the American College Personnel Association. The study is based on separately conducted surveys of more than 1,500 undergraduates at Wichita State and Western Michigan Universities.

At both institutions, about 86 percent of the surveyed students had not participated in a “fraternity or sorority recruitment or intake activity.” These students cited a number of reasons for not participating. Chief among them, 74 percent of these students they did not care to be associated with the “negative stereotypes associated with membership.” Sixty-four percent of them responded that there was “no perceived benefit” to participation in a Greek organization, 62 percent reported they "could not commit to membership.”

These students were then asked, “What could have changed your decision to not seek membership?” Forty percent responded “overall positive publicity,” and 36 percent said a “clearly conveyed value/benefit.” The remainder said that nothing could have changed their minds.

Those students who had participated in a Greek recruitment activity but ultimately did not join an organization cited most of the same reasons for their decision. Some, however, also noted that they were “not comfortable with the process.”

On a more positive note, many students who sought out fraternity or sorority membership did so because of the influence of their peers who were already members. Sixty-seven percent of these students said their primary interest was to making new friends. Forty-eight percent said the “social scene” attracted them, and 44 percent said “leadership development” was among the factors that made them participate.

Fouts, however, expressed a number of concerns about the figures expressed in her study. Nearly 60 percent of students who did not participate noted that the “source of [their] knowledge/understanding of social fraternities and sororities” came primarily from television shows and movies.

“Though we cannot stop what they see on television and in the movies, we can help debunk what they see,” Fouts said of incoming students and their perceptions of Greek life. “Maybe we can sway the tipping point of students who have some knowledge [of the Greek system].”

Fouts added that the student dissatisfaction with the recruitment process should raise a red flag for student affairs officials. Looking at this data, she noted that Western Michigan recently made a change in the way its sororities can recruit. Previously, sororities recruited in four rounds over the course of three days, often not offering time for students with other commitments to participate. Now, these recruitment cycles are more spread out and allow for make-up rounds.

The current economic crisis has changed the way students think about money, and Fouts acknowledges that perceptions about fraternity and sorority dues are no different. Chapters and student affairs offices, she said, will have to be "line-item specific" as to what these dues are for and how they will be spent to the benefit of the student. She argued that interested students should not be brought to think of their funds as “paying for friends,” as many an old cliché of fraternity life states.

“Students need to know specifically what is going to be required of them,” Fouts said of financial commitments. “If your organization is hesitant to put that out there, then I challenge you to encourage them to be more specific up front with that [for prospective members].”

Fouts and others familiar with Greek issues at the meeting said they were unsure how the economic crisis would impact membership. Still, some acknowledged that those students with only a cursory interest in a fraternity or a sorority might only see dollar signs before noting the potential benefits of Greek life.

Perhaps the most troubling bit of data to those in attendance -- primarily student affairs officers who see the Greek system as a positive infleunce on their campuses -- was that 44 percent of those students did not seek Greek membership because their “personal values conflicted with the perceived chapter values.” Some argued that Greek organizations must be modified to resemble the diversity of their campuses, saying that those that don’t will fail.

“One size does not fit all,” Fouts said. “We can no longer be passive with recruiting.”

Others noted that some of their students were interested in Greek life, just not with any of the organizations that were present on their campuses. Bethany Manley-Craig, assistant director of student development at New England College, said many of the more local fraternities and sororities on her campus simply cannot attract members in the way that national organizations can, even when they do not have a local chapter. For some students, she said, this presents a situation wherein they cannot find an organization that shares their values.

Humberto Baquerizo, assistant director of Greek life and wellness at the New Jersey Institute of Technology, said he believed many of today’s students look to Greek organizations for more than just “foam parties” and other social gatherings. He said many at his institution seek an outlet for community service, advising, guidance and a sense of “family.”

If students do not find these values expressed in the Greek system on their campuses, many at the meeting said, they would find them elsewhere. Most seemed to think that non-Greek organizations have begun fulfilling the leadership and service roles once predominately held by fraternities and sororities at their institutions. This environment, they argued, gives these groups less of a hold on today’s students.

Charles G. Eberly, professor of counseling and student development at Eastern Illinois University, said some Greek organizations could be in danger of extinction if they do not change. He argued that fraternities and sororities should get rid of the “pledge system” by which students must earn full membership. This, he said, would foster a “culture of integrity” among these organizations, something he believes today’s students demand.

“Millennial students react negatively to a culture of entitlement,” said Eberly of something he believes the pledge system cultivates. “If we don’t make changes, students are voting with their feet and these organizations will disappear.”

http://www.insidehighered.com/news/2009/04/01/greek


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Wednesday, December 24, 2008

How Does Your Campus Rate?

Roadblocks to Effective Greek Systems
from our friends at GREEK MOVEMENT

How’s your Greek system doing?
I recently went to the University library and started to browse through some dusty books on fraternities and sororities. One book, “Fraternities and Sororities on the Contemporary College Campus,” outlined four roadblocks to effective Greek systems. I’ll summarize them for you – and add some extra commentary.

ROADBLOCKS:
1) Lack of an Adequate Institutional Infrastructure.
Back in the day, many of the top University officials on campus – the men and women who ran the campus – were Greek alumni. This created a close-knit relationship between the University and the Greek system. Many of these University officials mentored the Greek leaders on campus and served as Greek advisors.

The Greek advisor role over the years has been pushed down the totem pole. Now, on many campuses, you’ll find that the Greek Advisor position is an entry-level type of position with weak pay. Some Greek advisors now aren’t even Greek!

2) Conflict and Competition
Greek award banquets provide good competition, but sometimes at a cost. When the goal becomes building up the chapter resume, it is sometimes hard to work with other chapters on things such as community service, raising money, and so on.

Sadly, when Greek chapters finally do come together – it is usually for an exciting, highly competitive intramural game. Greeks have gotten used to the idea that when they see Greeks from another chapter, they have to put their game face on.

3) Problem Resolution
Ask a Greek Advisor - at times, it feels like most of their energy is spent on resolving conflicts and solving problems rather than creating positive educational activities. With big problems such as alcoholism, drugs, hazing, and rape to deal with – they are often perceived as a parent or principal rather than an encouraging mentor or coach.

4) Failure to Appreciate the Benefits of Greek Life
Because of stereotypes, most academic leaders, parents, and new freshman don’t see the benefits of going Greek. Therefore, much energy must be given during formal recruitment to undo the negative perceptions.

On national level, we can partner together to influence our society through media (blogs, YouTube, TV, etc.) and other creative means to undo the perceptions.

Most importantly, Greek advisors, student leaders, and alumni volunteers must do the hard work of giving their time and energy to seeing lives changed on a local level. We have to be honest that many of the stereotypes are true on our campuses.

If we work hard to bring about reform and change on the local level first, it will only be a matter of time before the stereotypes disappear on a national level.

Friday, October 17, 2008

Fraternities Seeking Student Learning Outcomes

DELTA SIGMA PHI, DELTA UPSILON FRATERNITIES ANNOUNCE PARTNERSHIP

Delta Sigma Phi and Delta Upsilon Fraternities have announced a partnership centered on a shared commitment to utilizing student learning outcomes as a basis for informing student programming and fraternity operations. The two organizations have contracted with the Center for Learning Outcomes Assessment and the Center for the Study of the College Fraternity to measure their members’ experience.

The 2007 American Association of Colleges and Universities (AACU) College Learning for the New Global Century report has served as a call to action for the fraternities. The report recommends a set of Essential Learning Outcomes that outline the hallmarks of the 21st Century college graduate. To remain relevant with an ever-changing global society and to align with the educational mission of higher education, Delta Sigma Phi and Delta Upsilon will make assessment of student learning outcomes a top priority.

“This initiative is about the shared commitment of Delta Upsilon and Delta Sigma Phi Fraternities and their leadership to remain a relevant and vital contributor to the development of young men of high moral character,” said Scott Wiley, Executive Director of Delta Sigma Phi Fraternity. “Instead of talking about ways to collaborate our two organizations are choosing to act.”

The assessments will begin immediately with a set of pilot chapters this fall. The two organizations will hold a joint board meeting in January to review the initial data.
“Delta Sigma Phi and Delta Upsilon share a common mission of building better men and desire to be partners with higher education,” Justin Kirk, Delta Upsilon Executive Director said. “We want to use assessment as a means of ensuring that our rhetoric is congruent with our reality.”

The Center for Learning Outcomes Assessment will administer the University Learning Outcomes Assessment (UniLoa).The UniLoa is an assessment tool designed to measure student behaviors and development in seven domains regarded as critical by employers and experts in the field of higher education.

Dr. Mark Frederick, co-developer of the UniLoa, believes the partnership presents a tremendous opportunity.

“Fraternities and sororities are in a unique position to positively impact holistic student growth, learning, and development. By accurately understanding and measuring current levels of student behaviors, those organizations can move swiftly to develop programs and interventions designed to overcome weaknesses. As such, they can better prepare their members to succeed after graduation and to make significant contributions to themselves and the world around them,” said Frederick.

The organizations will also work with the Center for the Study of the College Fraternity (CSCF) using the Fraternity / Sorority Experience Assessment (FSES). The FSES measures eleven critical components of a chapter’s environment.

"These fraternities are setting an assessment precedent. The examination of both individual learning outcomes and correlating it with how their fraternity's environmental factors contribute to students' success will change, elevate, and solidify the value fraternity adds to the collegiate experience,” said Steve Veldkamp, Executive Director of the CSCF.

For more information on the partnership, please contact:
Justin Kirk - Executive Director, Delta Upsilon Fraternity
kirk@deltau.org - (317) 875-8900
Scott Wiley – Executive Director, Delta Sigma Phi Fraternity
wiley@deltasig.org - (317) 634-1899
Dr. Mark Frederick – Center for Learning Outcomes Assessment
mfrederick@isugw.indstate.edu – (812) 237-3888
Steve Veldkamp – Center for the Study of the College Fraternity
Veldkamp@indiana.edu – (812) 855-4311

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

What to Tell a Mom

Social skills can nurture grade-A students of life
Dr. Timothy Quinn • Special to The Clarion-Ledger • June 10, 2008

Social skills are important. This is what I told a patient's mom when she asked me to persuade her son not to join a fraternity.

She felt it would affect his grades. The mother was surprised when I told her that I am in a fraternity. I explained to the mother that being part of a social organization helps develop a person's social skills, which are very important for the success of that individual. This also helps with future networking opportunities.

I told her my mom made sure I took advantage of any opportunity to be involved in activities. This included church organizations; after-school activities; and other activities, including Cub Scouts, Boy Scouts and intramural sports. I was also given the opportunity to work when I became of age.

I told the patient about some of my experiences as part of a fraternity. I spoke of opportunities during college that allowed me to be part of a collaborative city effort that involved mentoring inner-city children. This allowed me to work with professionals, including physicians who mentored me during the process. I told her the story of my interview process for medical school and how interestingly the interviewer looked over my application and sang the fraternity song when I entered the room. Also, that a fraternity brother let me sleep on his sofa upon entering medical school until I was able to afford my own apartment.

Later on, I allowed a fraternity brother in the same situation to live in my apartment for two months while I was out of town the following year. I found it funny that he wore my suit, which I left in my closet.

I am not saying that grades are not important, but socialization is an important part of one's education in life. I graduated with honors, but I would not trade the social interactions that helped develop my character for any price.

Dr. Timothy Quinn is a Jackson-area family practitioner. Visit his Web site at www.quinnhealthcare.familydoctors.net.

Monday, May 19, 2008

Elitism or Egalitarianism …

Bob Kerr is away this week, but he sent his post in ahead of time. More good food for thought.
Elitism or Egalitarianism ….

…seems to be one of the central debates in the North American Fraternal Movement. In board rooms, bar rooms and conference rooms can be heard the debate on this topic decade after decade. Are we elite by nature if not by action? Is the grand design really supposed to be egalitarian? Let’s take a walk down this path and see what we will see.

According to Webster’s Dictionary, the two words are defined as:
  • Egalitarian – Advocating full political and social equality for all people. One advocating this.
  • Elite - The group, or part of a group, regarded as the best, most powerful, etc.
Fascinating distinction. I wonder, if one excels at being an egalitarian, say someone like Gandhi or Martin Luther King, Jr. or Linus Pauling, does ones actions make them elite? Or does it make them egalitarian role models? But, these individuals performed after they left college. To really examine the debate we need to start at the very beginning of the collegiate process. Recruitment.

Recruitment for most colleges is driven by their stated purpose. My undergraduate campus states their mission as:
“…committed to providing comprehensive educational opportunities in an urban setting. Through teaching, scholarship, and public service, the University seeks to equip both students and the larger community with the educational and cultural tools they need to thrive in a complex world, and to achieve both individual responsibility in their own lives and effective citizenship in the local, national, and global community (complete statement available on the University Website. at www.wichita.edu
If we examine the inherent outcomes we see a thematic focus on the development of an effective citizen. This citizenship serves as the great goal for participating in the local, national and global communities. In essence to contribute to serving the needs of the markets we exist in while being conscious to the global impact of our needs.

Now, let’s apply these basic concepts to Greek recruitment.

As it is commonly defined, fraternity recruitment is searching for the best of the best. Virtually every chapter I have ever interacted with says this same thing. Yet, their selection process does not match the desired outcomes. Often the lowering of standards is seen as a survival tactic when it is actually diluting the quality of the organization and its ability to recruit qualified prospective members.

As I have experienced it, there seems to be three basic criteria for selecting prospective new members. The first criterion is academic performance. A common measuring stick is a high school GPA of 3.0 or better. The second criterion is a verifiable history of community service. Finally, some demonstrated leadership experience be it a part-time job, student government, athletics, debate etc. That is the formulae I have experience in the North American Fraternal Movement for four decades.

So, what are the outcomes?

The outcomes vary from campus to campus, chapter to chapter. So let me share some of the indices and let you do the discovery. First, is the all fraternity chapter GPA above the all men’s? Second, are chapters struggling to get members involved with chapter activity or otherwise engaged with a campus group? Finally, how many members are involved in leadership at the chapter, IFC, campus or work level? So, while you are doing that work, I will share a little from my current campus.

In the winter 2008 grade report, 7 chapters performed above the all men’s average while 17 chapters were below the all men’s average. This means that the average male on campus outperformed 70% of the fraternity chapters. The funny thing is, the all fraternity chapter GPA was higher than the all men’s GPA on the strength and size of the 7 chapters. So a lot of above average students on campus are clearly not fraternity men and we seem stalled in how to attract them to our organizations.

So, are we elitist or egalitarian? Let’s see what Cicero had to say.
“We were born to unite with our fellow men and to join in community with the human race.”
In his later years, Cicero devoted himself to writing and sharing his sense of duty that the Roman leaders owed each other and the citizens of Rome. His work was one of the elements of a classical education and many of the men who signed the Declaration of Independence were students of his work. Some argue this influence can be seen in the critical concepts in the Declaration. A sense of community and a sense of duty were two of the primary lessons I remember in college and in my fraternity. I was filled with a genuine sense of a responsibility to make a difference regardless of where I found myself standing.

So, the question remains, egalitarian or elitist? If we say elitist then building community will be difficult if not impossible. The perception that one chapter or the other should be the leader of all the rest because of size, GPA or length on campus is a difficult pill for others to swallow. Clearly our recruitment criterion is a standard that can be achieved by anyone from any background.

If we are egalitarian, then we can work together to build genuine community based on mutual trust and respect. We can learn to serve each other and the greater causes we all cherish. We can learn to be better leaders, followers and disciples of the teachings of our separate rituals. Perhaps we have a duty to each other, as interfraternal brothers and sisters, to guide and mentor our undergraduate brothers and sisters to be more cooperative and less combative. To seek to work together versus vanquish each other in every aspect of college life. Perhaps if we learn how scary we can be in our group behavior, constant rivalry and unhealthy competition, we can discover how to attract more qualified candidates to learn with us and join with us. Peace, positive tension and harmony are far more welcoming than bitter feuds started so long ago no one knows why we don’t like each other.

Make no mistake about it, I firmly believe we should have high standards. I also believe that we should resist every temptation to lower our standards. We should also expect our interfraternal brothers and sisters to maintain and preserve their high standards. But high standards do not make us elite or egalitarian. Only our attitudes and behavior towards each other reveals that distinction,

Bob Kerr
Coordinator of Greek Life
Oregon State
OGH

Monday, May 12, 2008

Last Chapter Standing, Part Three

A guest post by Bob Kerr, Coordinator of Greek Life at Oregon State and OGH recipient.
Last Chapter Standing, Part Three (If you missed them, here is a link to part one, and a link to part two.)

Last chapter standing is but one scenario facing the North American Fraternal Movement. As we look to the tercentennial of the fraternal movement, December 15th 2076, we have some pretty significant questions to ask and answer. Among them are:

  • As a movement – what is our purpose?
  • Whom do we serve?
  • How is it hazing still exists?
  • Why is it so difficult to get alumni engaged with undergraduate chapters?
  • How do you define success?

From my desk as a University officer working with the Greek community, I see some indicators of what might be the challenges these questions address.

  • Purpose can be defined by values and outcomes. In my office, I have framed copies of the mission statements, public value statement or creeds of the organization on our campus. When I meet with a chapter President, following some misstep, we measure what the chapter is doing when compared to the key document. Most are surprised I have such access and are usually humbled. In many cases it is the first time they have been held accountable to those documents.
  • As I analyze these public documents, the theme I get is one of service to the general good. Not the general good of those like us, but all those we share life with on this planet. Given our collective history in the first half of the 20th century, we have some work to do.
  • As long as pre-initiation weeks are closed and not supervised by alumni, hazing will surface. It is the nature of highly competitive environments for one class to try and out do the other classes. It takes maturity and experience to guide young men away from hazing and towards a more productive and reflective experience. The kind of experience alumni can offer.
  • There is a great fraternity movie called “Fraternity Row” which talks about how fractured a chapter gets because of hazing. Those scars tend to stay with a man long after he graduates and they become barriers to the individual re-engaging. The ideals of the organization get lost in the “traditions” we inflict upon each other. Perhaps now we can comprehend the long term effects of hazing.
  • Defining success is a variable that causes much disruption. If we focus on individual chapters we have a two dimensional definition. A definition where it is possible for a few chapters to be successful while the majority of the Greek system is mediocre at best. Where, if we examine the whole Greek community, we get a much better perspective. It is why a doctor takes the whole bodies health into consideration instead of just one or two aspects.

If we use the work of Ernest Boyer as a grounding theory, we quickly see six elements of building community that are worth examining.

  1. Purposeful
  2. Open
  3. Just
  4. Disciplined
  5. Caring
  6. Celebrative

If we apply these elements we see a shift from some of the current patterns of behavior. For example:

  1. A Greek community that is united in its common purpose to help build a better world. Not chapter specific engagement but community engagement.
  2. In all my years, it has been a rare occasion when a chapter President has opened up to the troubles of their chapter. As such, they never utilize the campus resources designed to help them and thus started a spiral downward.
  3. Justice rarely feels like the intent of what happens in the Greek world. Harsh penalties seem to be the norm with few educational outcomes required or experienced. The main lesson seems to be, don’t get caught.
  4. Disciplined Greek communities are responsible for upholding chapter, community and campus standards. Choosing not to play pranks, steal composites, steal charters and otherwise behave contrary to our purpose is a hope for every campus.
  5. Caring for each other is a natural reality of a Greek community. When tragedy strikes one chapter they all offer support and assistance. Even something has remember the founding dates of our brother and sister chapters acknowledges the strength each chapter brings to the community.
  6. Celebrating achievement is a natural and healthy thing. Having a party because it’s been around for 60 years and people end up in the front lawn puking their guts out doesn’t sound like everyone’s having a celebration.

I have been fortunate to be involved in the fraternal movement for 38 years. Whether as a volunteer or a campus Greek Life professional, I have seen one thing become really clear, we are fighting each other for the same dwindling pie. What is confusing is we can chose to work together and expand the market and build a sustainable future. It all starts on each individual campus and usually launches by asking for help from the university. It is a different world out there and there is a need for the values we promote. The more in alignment to our values and our membership Oaths we are, the better off we will be. The other option is well, less promising to say the least.

Bob Kerr
Coordinator of Greek Life
Oregon State
OGH

Monday, May 05, 2008

Last Chapter Standing (part 2 of 3)

A guest post by Bob Kerr, Coordinator of Greek Life at Oregon State and OGH recipient.
Last Chapter Standing, part two (If you missed part one, Here is the link)

So, how do you know you are playing the game of “Last Chapter Standing”? Well, there are a couple of real good indicators. First, when you are more concerned about the number of men joining your chapter rather than the size and quality of the interest pool for the entire fraternity community. Secondly, when the undergraduate community ignores the stereotypical behavior that is common to most Greek communities. When there is a response, it tends to be punitive rather than educational. Punitive responses tend to breed contempt and disconnect from the overall community. Thirdly, when the undergraduate community is making decisions based on data coming from “back in the day” or the current “template” from a few headquarters, rather than the comprehensive data generated by the university to enhance recruitment and retention of all students, we miss the boat. Finally, if we experience community building as a cosmetic layer, put on the face of a Greek system, rather than the intentional work designed to build genuine community from an organic perspective, we buy into a smoke and mirrors approach that has been an element in most campus Greek communities for a very long time.

So, if we can accept the premise that “Community building” will strengthen the quality and quantity of the interest pool, enhance retention, deepen the positive connection to the campus community and community at large as well create better alignment with Greek mission and values, then we need to examine what are some simple steps to make "community" come alive.

-“He who forgives ends the quarrel”, African proverb.

One of the confusing components of “Last Chapter Standing” gamesmanship is the way it accelerates pranks and makes them more destructive. Never mind that the lesson being taught is to disrespect the members of the community, and at times to hold hostage valuable possessions. The extent to which this “mischief” extends can be evidenced by the vulnerability of chapter charters. Once view as sacred and off-limits, they are now on the “prank list” and totally disrupts the harmony of a chapter. If a Greek community has developed a process that responds to this thievery, and engages an educational protocol for the culprits, then a standard for the community has been established. It will take great courage for the Presidents of the community to take a stand against this behavior.

Transparency is also a very real asset in today’s modern world. Campus communities are focused on building transparency and the Greek community can benefit from this practice. All it takes is a series of “Open Houses” when the Greek community opens their doors and lets the campus community, administrators, faculty and students in to their homes to see for themselves what they look like. Also, those residents in the nearby neighborhoods can come by and see how their neighbors live. It is amazing how quickly the stereotypes dissolve when the community sees what it really looks like and gets to experience the rich heritage that lives within the chapters.

As difficult as it is, the challenge in many Greek communities is the leadership of the chapter, Panhellenic, IFC and MGC don’t really know each other. The trust factor is diminished by the ingrained process of teaching new members that “Our house over everyone else”. This breeds a disconnect and encourages distrust. This internalized process can distance even students who went to the same high school for three to four years. Creating opportunities, both formal and informal, affords these leaders to build relations which can build collaborative efforts on behalf of the Greek community It starts with just having coffee together, or perhaps being the guest at each others chapter house and can evolve into dinner activities for the leadership cohort. As the leaders build trust, they can then be a respected and trusted person in their chapter that confronts those chapter members who would breed unhealthy competition with other.

“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is: What are you doing for others?, Martin Luther King, Jr.

Community building is one answer to that question. It is critical to remember that community building and community service are two different things. It is possible to have a Greek system engage in community service just enough to placate headquarters. But, if we build Greek communities, then the undergraduates have the leverage to change their campus community as well as the residential community. Gone would be the unhealthy competition, the distrust, the hatred and the stereotypes that plague the 800 plus Greek campuses. Stereotypes exist because the behavior exists. No amount of university attempts to control, no efforts by headquarters to foster stronger chapters and no educational suggestions from alumni can diminish the stereotypical behavior. Only a community building process, which includes all the stakeholders, will build the foundation and the bridge from
where we are to where we could be as a Greek community

“Don’t prepare the path for the child. Prepare the child for the path”, anonymous.

So, what world are we preparing our students for after graduation? A world focused on artificial competition, win/lose dynamics and disregard for the impact on others our decisions represent? Or, are we looking for collaborative skills, win/win dynamics and global integration for solutions to global challenges. I leave the debate of that question to you. I will present my final installment next week on “Last Chapter Standing” next week.

Bob Kerr
Greek Life Coordinator
Oregon State University
OGH

Monday, April 28, 2008

Last Chapter Standing…

A guest post by Bob Kerr, Coordinator of Greek Life at Oregon State and OGH recipient.
Last Chapter Standing…

… may be the direction the North American Fraternal Movement is heading. At a time when the enrollment is generally on the rise, enrollment in the fraternal world is at best managing its loss. If we are who and what we say we are, then we have to take a very serious look at what the factors are that contribute to this outcome. From my perspective, I would have to say that there seems to be a loss of confidence in the product by the consumer public. In fact, I suggest there are three media moments that articulate this loss of confidence.

Specifically, the first media moment came with the publication of “Pledged” by Alexandra Robbins followed quickly by “Torn Toga” written by Esther Wright. As I read the books in preparation for working with the Greek students on campus I knew they would be upset. Both books took n inside look at Greek life and what they presented wasn’t always pretty. Naturally, the students were upset because their perception was the books were filled with stereotypes. For some of them, they recognized some of what goes on in their chapters. This revelation came at the cost of their innocence and some very uncomfortable questions from parents. For me, I recognized events from my undergraduate experience as well as threads to my volunteer experience to my fraternity. Clearly, the shine is coming off the apple.

The second media moment came on August 3, 2007 when a grand jury indicted Anthony Campbell, Dean of Students, and Ada Badgley, Director of Greek Life, both employed by Rider University, for their alleged role in the hazing death of Gary DeVercelley, who died of alcohol poisoning at an on-campus fraternity location. This was instant national news and it rocked the professional Greek advising world. Later that month both staff members would have their charges dropped, but the damage had been done. Few campuses weren’t rechecking their insurance policies and seeing what was real and what was unreal. It also raised the question, does the university really know what is going on in the Greek community on its campus? Or worse, what does the university know that it isn’t telling us?

Finally, over the summer ABC Family aired its show “Greeks” to a national audience. Students were terrified at what may be portrayed on this show. It was a novel idea, to portray the modern issues that play out in the drama of a Greek community. It revealed the petty differences, the struggle to balance privilege with service, the issue of diversity and acceptance and the challenges to develop a legitimate community. My students watch it with comfort now because they see themselves in this program. It suggests that someone understands what they are going through on a daily basis. It makes them laugh and it makes them think.

These three media moments describe a changing landscape that no longer takes the Greek world at face value. I have been working as a Greek affairs professional for seventeen years and there is a definite change in the questions being asked by parents and student alike. Safety is a top concern and parents are rightfully concerned with the binge drinking that is prevalent in college Greek communities. It is an issue we must address and we must address as a community of Greek organizations But first, we have to build legitimate Greek communities on campuses. It is a hard target that seems to be ignored by many in the movement.

Since most college and university campuses operate as micro niche markets, there is great market advantage to building a cohesive undergraduate Greek community. It does little good to have ten chapters out of forty focused on academics, service and leadership. The sense is, we all have our futures braided together whether we accept it or not. For instance, when a chapter makes the local news or campus news, for something unfortunate, few people care which chapter it is. All they see is “Greek”. When we do something good . again people just see “Greek”. But, when we work together, when we address common problems with joint creativity and investments then we act like, and look like a community. With community you rebuild the consumers confidence in the product. With community you have a chance to go farther than any of us can go alone. I am reminded of Al Gore’s speech as he accepted the Nobel Peace Prize, “… I want to borrow from an old African proverb, if you want to go fast go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” So the question is, does the North American Fraternal Movement want to go far or fast? Do we want to go far or fast?

On my campus, both the IFC & Panhellenic Councils made joint decisions to change their recruitment process. It was a difficult process to surrender decades of process that had failed miserably in the new century. But, together they forged ahead and we are back on the growth side of recruitment. No headquarters or national strategic plan could replace the work of these students. The sense of ownership they have is improving and we are even proposing radical and innovative IFC recruitment grants to the three smallest chapters to help them compete for members. Because these students know that even losing one chapter on campus is a blow to the whole community.

How this translates on a campus where students are specifically looking for community is critical. Recently, our campus received data from our entering class of freshman during their orientation sessions. 45% of these students were seeking community service as part of their collegiate experience. They want to make a difference today in the communities they live in and in communities around the world. This emphasis changes the focus from drinking and parties to work and celebrations. Some chapters, and their headquarters, are slow to pick up on this change and their chapters still focus on the competitive nature of the Greek community and lose people by the dozens. Good people who should be in the Greek community but are turned off by the emphasis on alcohol, the “silos” we call chapter and the unhealthy competition that is intentionally built between chapters.

I suggest the work is on the local campus and there are some wonderful ideas on building a broader community at the NIC level. I have forwarded a concept paper to our headquarters that describes how community building can actual build stronger organizations for all. I look forward to the conversations. [emphasis added - ed.]

“and the day came when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin

So we sit, as a combined North American Fraternal Movement, and debate political leadership and strategic plans that do not include building campus communities; we do not see over the horizon. We employ top down leadership strategies as opposed to shared leadership strategies and miss the generational differences of today’s contemporary student. As I reflect on what I see, experience and learn on a daily basis I see a rich and fertile opportunity for Greek communities on campuses today and very little risk. I hope one day that we can take a leadership role in building legitimate Greek communities on the campuses of North America. It won’t be easy and it won’t be quick but I am convinced we can build the coalitions we need to climb a lighthouse and see farther over the horizon than we see as a single organization standing on the beach Otherwise, being the last chapter standing will be a meaningless accomplishment.

In the next installment of “Last Chapter Standing” I will explore some strategies and tips that can be installed on a local level.

Bob Kerr
Coordinator of Greek Life
Oregon State
OGH

Sunday, March 02, 2008

SMU House Mom - Go Mom Go!

76-year-old fraternity house mom teaches ballroom dancing and sexual enlightenment
By Caitlin Myers, Contributing Writer

Plucker's chicken bones, Styrofoam to-go boxes and what looks to be the remains of someone's accounting textbook litter the path to her apartment. Apologizing, she tiptoes around the mess, but says don't expect her to clean it up. "I'm not the one who has to pay for the damages," Lila McCurtain said once she's inside the SMU Pi Kappa Alpha house, whose hallways reek of the weekend's festivities.

After all, she's the fraternity's house mother - not its maid. She's the woman who provides, among other things, ballroom dancing lessons, sexual enlightenment and hypnosis to more than 100 fraternity members. But she is definitely not a maid.

And she's part of a dying breed. Of the nine Interfraternity Council chapters on campus, only four house mothers remain. Since the fall of 2005, SMU's Greek system has been slowly replacing these long-time staples of fraternity row with "graduate Greek house directors," a group of younger, male graduate students employed and trained by the university.

Sigma Chi, Phi Delta Theta, Kappa Alpha Order and Pi Kappa Alpha are the only houses still utilizing female house directors.

"Respect for the house mother position has kind of gone away," Ryan Williams, coordinator of Student Activities and Greek Affairs, said. "It takes a very special person to do this job well."

McCurtain more than fits the bill. The divorced mother of three grown sons (and seven grandchildren) says she's not here to baby-sit. She came to the PIKE house nearly seven years ago after some convincing from her youngest son, Monte, a Greek alumnus from the University of Oklahoma. When asked by one of her men's mothers during Parent's Weekend if she took good care of her son, McCurtain replied with a prompt, "No."

"I told her that one day, when her son lives in the real world, he will probably have a wife and children and will have to take care of them," McCurtain said. "So, I am giving him an opportunity to practice by taking care of me."

Don't mistake her frankness and practicality for a lack of compassion, though. She says that's a common misconception about her Chinese zodiac sign, the monkey. "We monkeys are often considered insensitive, but that's just because we are the active sign of the zodiac," she said. "We're fast moving and have high energy."

At 76, McCurtain makes an effort to ballroom dance five nights a week at various community centers around the Dallas-Fort Worth area. When she's not waltzing, she likes to tone up with the Total Body Gym that sits in the middle of her living room. "No other house mom is like ours," junior PIKE member Curtis Edenfield said. "She gets all dressed up and tries to teach us her ballroom dancing skills. It's awesome.

"A tour of her tiny, first-floor apartment inside the PIKE house (one of the job's perks, along with an undisclosed salary from the fraternity) reveals her passions in life: several rolling racks of feathers, sequins and satin ball gowns, elephant figurines and family photographs, a Ms. Congeniality Award from the 1994 Ms. Senior Texas Pageant, where she was also the first runner-up.

"That's me from a long, long time ago," she said, pointing to a black and white photograph of herself hanging above the desk. "Eighteen years old. Back when I was a brunette."

She's proud of her soft, wavy blonde bob now. She cuts and bleaches it herself. She's gone through every hairstyle imaginable, even enduring the pain of the frosting phenomenon.

But it was her naturally brown locks that taught her a lot growing up in McAlester, Okla. As the "mousy brunette" in a family of blonde sisters and an athletic brother, McCurtain quickly learned that to get noticed she had to bring something else to the table.

So she started dancing. On her father's feet, in the country town's one-room schoolhouse, McCurtain learned to foxtrot and two-step. By the time she was a teenager, the boys chose her over her sisters because, well, she could "dance the pants" off that one-room schoolhouse.

When she's not dancing, she substitute teaches for the Carrollton-Farmers Branch school district. With what free time she has left, she enjoys writing, especially love poems and short stories. Inspiration comes from her own life, and she often wakes up in the middle of the night to jot down a new prose.

She shuffles through piles of papers and video tapes and produces a bound, cardstock calendar entitled "Alpha Males 2008." She sells these homemade calendars for $20 a piece, with the proceeds going toward building and maintaining an orphanage that her son Monte setup in Zambia, Africa.

Inside, each month features men from 21 to 75 years old "who are successful in every area of their lives" and "above all, they know how to treat a woman." Six of her fraternity men fill the pages; the rest include dance partners, friends and family.

Junior PIKE member Clark Lundy is Mr. February. His photo is accompanied by one of McCurtain's original poems, "Tethered to Your Heart."

We can't forget about the other months, though, McCurtain points out. Junior Jonny "Red Beard" Morgans is Mr. August. Beneath his picture, McCurtain writes, "He may pirate your heart." Then, flipping back several pages, there's junior pledge brother David Dines, better known as Mr. July: "Tennis is his game; if you're a match, love is his goal," reads his description.

It's hard to imagine the stereotypical fraternity guy willingly participating in such a testament to romance. However, the PIKE men say it's the least they can do for Mom."She's done so much for us," Dines said. "So, we try to help her out whenever she needs us."It is this mutual respect between a tough-love kind of mom and her sons that has kept McCurtain at the PIKE house year after year.

Despite a national trend toward more male mentorship in fraternities, this chapter's members couldn't imagine their house without Mom."We're her boys," Lundy said. "Each year she gets a whole new set of us to watch over. And she's completely selfless, even offering up her own racks of costumes to us for Halloween.

I love knowing that years from now I can come back to this house and Mom will still be here."Likewise, her men have told her she only need knock three times on her apartment wall before someone comes to her aid. "My men, they really do take care of me," McCurtain said. "They're totally awesome."

While her poems and short stories have drawn a cult-like following within the house, McCurtain said it is her lessons in sexuality that rank most popular. As a retired psychotherapist for a physical rehabilitation hospital, she taught sexuality to quadriplegics and patients with traumatic brain injuries. Next to them, frat guys must be a synch.

"I tell them, 'Today, I am not your house mom; I am your Dutch uncle. So, feel free to ask me anything you like,'" she said. "If I don't know the answer, and one of their older brothers doesn't know either, we will research it in the library.

"Rounding out her skills, McCurtain also offers hypnosis, a talent she happened to pick up at a traveling workshop. Her goal is for the fraternity members to improve their grades through autohypnosis, a technique she herself uses to drown out the slamming doors and rap music of her men's late-night partying.

"When else would I ever have the opportunity to meet a woman like this?" Lundy said. "She has experience in so many different areas, it's unbelievable."On her 50th birthday, McCurtain made a pact with herself to accomplish something new each year. At the rate she's going, she said there are only a few things left to check off her list, and she's saving the best for last."When I go, I'll be 100 years old, on the French Rivera, in bed with a strange man," she said.

"You see, I've been to the Rivera plenty of times, but never in bed with a strange man, so that's kind of the final frontier."

Friday, February 29, 2008

Vermont Latest to Eye Lower Drinking Age

Old enough to vote; old enough to fight and die in Iraq; old enough to buy tobacco and get started on a serious case of lung cancer; but not old enough to drink? Where is the logic in that?
"Our laws aren't working. They're not preventing underage drinking. What they're doing is putting it outside the public eye," Vermont state Sen. Hinda Miller said. "So you have a lot of kids binge drinking. They get sick, they get scared and they get into trouble and they can't call because they know it's illegal."

On Thursday, a committee of the Vermont Senate approved Miller's bill to have a task force weigh the pros and cons of rolling back the drinking age and make a recommendation to the Legislature early next year.
[...]
[L]ast year, former Middlebury College president John McCardell started Choose Responsibility, a nonprofit that favors allowing 18- to 20-year-olds to legally buy booze once they've completed an alcohol education program.

"We don't simply advocate the lower age, but believe mandatory alcohol education and licensing with very strict enforcement for violations of the state's alcohol laws might work," McCardell said.

Mothers Against Drunk Driving and others call this folly to even consider, saying the higher age limit has saved thousands of lives since the 1984 enactment of the National Minimum Drinking Age Act. The act required states to raise the age to 21 or lose federal transportation money.

"Is there any significant support in the U.S. Congress for changing the law? We don't see that," said Chuck Hurley, CEO of MADD.

Typically, when states flirt with the idea, they quickly abandon it for fear of losing the highway funding, he said.
What would the implications be for Greeks? If it is legal to drink at 18 would that lessen the liability in cases of alcohol related incidents ("He made his own choice, the Fraternity had no part.") Or would the number of problems increase to an unacceptable level (as if there is no drinking NOW)?

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